I Used to Be Transgender. Here’s My Take on Kids Who Think They Are
Transgender. By Walt
Heyer / February 16, 2016 / 469 comments
When a 9-year-old boy who identifies
as Stormi, a transgender girl, started selling Girl Scout cookies, one neighbor
was not amused, according to Buzzfeed.
The neighbor rebuffed him,
reportedly saying, “Nobody wants to buy Girl Scout cookies from a boy in a
dress.”
The neighbor is being called
transphobic—but perhaps the neighbor thought he was being pranked by a boy and
reacted accordingly. Not everyone assumes that a boy in a dress selling Girl
Scout cookies is transgender.
Stormi looked like a boy to the
neighbor because he really is a boy. Transgender people may deceive themselves,
but they do not deceive others.
Life in society is not some fantasy
world where a boy should pretend he has magically transformed himself into a
girl simply by uttering the words “I am a girl” and changing how he presents
himself.
The people who strongly object to
the honest reaction from a man saying, “Nobody wants to buy Girl Scout cookies
from a boy in a dress” are perhaps gender-phobic, rejecting and
ridiculing the reality of male and female genders.
While studying psychology in a
university program I discovered that trans-kids most often are suffering from a
variety of disorders, starting with depression—the result of personal loss,
broken families, sexual abuse, and unstable homes.
The people who encourage very young
kids to act out, switch genders, and live a life of pretend need to understand
that Stormi could be suffering from a dissociative disorder, just as happened
with me. My feelings of not wanting to be a boy started in early childhood as
result of cross-dressing at the hands of my grandma.
Stormi could be in need of
psychotherapy, not a dress. Caregivers all too often collaborate
with a mental disorder instead of treating it. Telling a psychologically
troubled boy he has changed genders is not compassion, but can become reckless
parenting. By withholding psychotherapy, parents could be abusing the kid.
My
Transgender Story - Living in a self-made gender fantasy
world void of reality is not psychologically or emotionally healthy. I know
that to be true. I was transgender kid at the age of 4. For decades, as I tried
to live in my male birth gender, the feelings of being a woman only grew
stronger.
I sought help from a renowned gender
specialist who told me that mine was a clear-cut case of gender dysphoria—strong,
persistent feelings of identification with the opposite gender and discomfort
with one’s own assigned sex. He said the only way to get relief was to
surgically change genders.
I underwent gender reassignment surgery at 42 years of age after cross-dressing for most of my
life. I lived as a transgender, Laura
Jensen, female, for eight years.
While studying psychology in a university program, I discovered that trans kids
most often are suffering from a variety of disorders, starting with
depression—the result of personal loss, broken families, sexual abuse, and
unstable homes. Deep depression leads kids to want to be someone other than who
they are. That information sure resonated with me.
Finally, I had discovered the
madness of the transgender life. It is a
fabrication born of mental disorders. I
only wish that when I went to the gender counselor for help he would have told
me I couldn’t really change genders, that it is biologically impossible.
Instead, he approved me for gender reassignment surgery, a surgery that, if I
had been provided proper psychotherapy, would never have been necessary or
appropriate.
The Role
Trauma and Psychological Disorders Can Play - The transgender life is often the
direct result of early childhood difficulty or trauma. Assisting a young child
into the fabricated ideology of a transgender life is not helping the child
sort out what is real and what is fiction.
The likelihood that the child known
as Stormi is suffering from separation anxiety or some other psychological
disorder cannot be ignored. Stormi is living in a foster home. While it may be
safe and necessary, foster care is intended to separate the child from the
birth parent. This can lead to psychological disorders like separation anxiety
disorder.
Separation anxiety occurs as the
result of loss or separation from the birth parent. Disruption in a child’s
home environment can lead to stress, depression, and anxiety. Living in a
foster home even under the best conditions can be stressful to a young person.
Separation anxiety disorder and
other psychological disorders can masquerade as gender dysphoria, leading
caregivers and medical practitioners to misdiagnose and not provide proper or
effective psychotherapies.
Stormi’s life will evolve as
maturity unfolds. Most likely in 15 or 20 years, reality will set in that he
really never changed genders. This is often a turning point where the trans
life is not looking as good as it once did. Thankfully, like me, many
transgender persons return to the gender they once shed. Slowly they restore
the life that was lost.
The three men who came up with the
idea of changing boys into girls and making transgenders, Alfred Kinsey, Harry
Benjamin, and John Money, were pedophilia advocates. (For more of the history,
see “Sex Change” Surgery: What Bruce Jenner, Diane Sawyer, and
You Should Know.)
The neighbor man was correct about
one thing: The Girl Scout at his door was really a boy in a dress—just like I
was as a young boy who thought I was a girl.
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